Tradition, Big Weddings and Shitty Parents

There’s a recent post at Captain Awkward in which the letter writer, who seems like a really nice person and deserves better than any of this shit, basically asks this: “My father mistreats me in every possible way, so how do I include him in my wedding?”

Between her letter, the Captain’s answer, and the stories being shared in the comment section, there are some things I want to talk about today. One is that the letter writer is a great example of a grown daughter who should have cut her father out of her life years ago. (Her mother and stepfather are good to her, while her father and stepmother are awful.) I think more grown children should cut ties with their parents, not because that’s a good thing unto itself, but because there are a lot of parents out there who are terrible people and their adult sons and daughters would lead much better lives without them.

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